More often, longer, better: methods for a multiorgasmic life
Hardly any other topic has preoccupied mankind over the millennia as much as the tension between sexual pleasure and procreation. More than 3000 years ago, the Chinese discovered that men can have multiple orgasms if they control or even completely avoid ejaculation. In the West, it took until the 1940s for Alfred Kinsey to report similar discoveries. But although his findings have been repeatedly confirmed in laboratory experiments, this knowledge still has no real social relevance.
The retention of seminal fluid during sexual union was a well-kept secret in ancient China. In the beginning, these practices were exclusively practised by the emperor and his inner circle. Later, they became accessible to "ordinary people" as well and were passed down from father to chosen son, but withheld from all female family members. Today, these restrictions no longer exist. In semen and ovary kungfu, men and women learn how to direct and transform their sexual energy along the path of the small circuit (see illustration). With each ejaculation and menstruation, the body assumes that a new life is to be conceived. According to Taoism, all organs and glands sacrifice their best energy for this, which is called orgasmic energy. According to the Kinsey Report, a man ejaculates on average five thousand times during his lifetime, some men much, much more. From a Taoist perspective, a man loses energy mainly through ejaculation, while a woman loses energy through menstruation, not through orgasm. Women can experience about three hundred to five hundred menstrual cycles. Each egg cell and also each sperm contain highly effective, creative energy.
The human energy system
The Taoist sages regard their own energy system as a holistic entity. For example, a young and healthy person gets one hundred percent of the energy needed for a day from breathing, food, sleep and exercise, and uses about sixty to seventy percent of it for his or her daily life. One could understand this one hundred percent as a bank balance. With increasing age, however, this energy balance becomes increasingly unfavourable. The elderly person takes in less and less energy due to wear and tear, stress, exhaustion, etc., although his body consumes the same amount. So he gradually gets into the minus because he now has to draw the energy he needs from the vital organs - from the kidneys, liver, spleen, lungs, heart and pancreas, then from the endocrine glands and finally from the brain. Ailments of old age take on a whole new dimension under this aspect.
Jing Chi is the most subtle of all energies with which a human being is born. All other forms of chi in the body are dependent on jing, or origin chi. Jing Chi is transformed into Chi through interaction with the organs. The preservation and nourishment of jing chi forms the basis of the Taoist way, it is stored primarily in the kidneys, seeds and ova.
Ching Chi is the sexual essence, it is formed in the sexual organs. In women it is the energy of the ovaries, in men it is the energy of the semen. Ching Chi is denser than chi, moves slower in the body, it nourishes the organs when moving in the body.
Cultivating the ching chi that moves in our "love organs" is one of the few ways to replenish our stock - our chi account, so to speak. Closely connected to the glandular system, our sex organs can generate large amounts of sexual energy, an extremely fiery energy, powerful, alive - but not lasting. In order to store it, it must be channelled to the organs and not remain exclusively in the sexual organs or be "wasted"; i.e. without circulating; discharged.
The exercises and meditations from the Universal Healing Tao© show us how to circulate, transform, and use the fiery energy of Ching Chi to charge our body energy system.
Unfortunately, most of the texts lack more specific instructions on how to transform the seed energy once you have retained it, where to store it in the body, and how to exchange it in lovemaking with a partner. The practices of retaining semen in men and controlling the menstrual cycle in women, are also described mostly in passing. It is a special merit of Grandmaster Mantak Chia to have made this precious practice accessible to all.
The Taoist sages focus their body chemistry practice more in the 8 special or miracle meridians, the 12 main meridians are used more in acupuncture.
Sexual life disorders such as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, impotence, prostate problems, menstrual cramps, organ dysfunction and hormonal fluctuations can be alleviated, if not resolved, with Healing Love practices. Most men are sexually weaker than women, losing more energy than women for the same amount of sexual activity. The sexual imbalance between man and woman is obvious. The woman can take her husband inside her as long as she wants. The Taoists therefore say that their yin essence is almost inexhaustible. The man's physical power of love, however, is limited by the amount of energy available to him for his erection.
The effects that this biological primordial imbalance has on the man-woman relationship are enormous. A real chain reaction, from marriage to the relationship to work, to the culturally determined roles we adopt. The spiritual models that guide our self-development and inner growth are also affected.
In the depths of their hearts, men encounter the inexhaustible sexual power of women with as much fear as fascination. Perhaps this sexual insecurity is also the reason why men throughout the ages and in every culture have sought to suppress women physically, politically, financially, intellectually and religiously.
The search for sexually fulfilled love has taken on an almost religious dimension among people who are too scientifically minded to believe in any of the traditional versions of a god. Devotion to a single person offers something tangible, a sacrament that is personal and present, the altar of love, so to speak.
It is possible that the decline of religion in the West began with the experience that sexuality became more open, stronger and more important than the spiritual experience that a religion could offer its believers through prayers and in community.
Taoist teachings offer neither religion nor marriage as a means to balance, rather the intimate connection and fusion of subtle inner energies called yin and yang. Man is encouraged to develop, increase and keep with him his natural inner life force, chi.
First we have to become aware of the divine and subtle energies in order to balance them in our body. To do this, we need to awaken the senses that are still dormant in us. Purely physical exercises as well as mental, meditative postures are to be used for this 'awakening' in order to master the feeling and movement of the Chi in the body. Since the potential for this lies dormant in every human being, everyone can learn this. All my students were able to feel the chi as soon as they learned how to look inside and what to look for. Only the duration of this 'awakening' differs from person to person.
Grandmaster Mantak Chia understands his role as a teacher who helps his students to work independently with themselves and their chi. He describes himself, for example, as the leader of a convoy of trucks:
"I can give each student a map, a set of tools and a repair manual for their vehicle. We set out together and help and love each other along the way. But in the end, everyone has to make progress on their own.
Some will break down on the way, others will get lost or choose a completely different route. Some may also find a better way than the one suggested. That's all I can do as a teacher."
The path to outer beauty through inner awareness is one of the expected results of practising Taoist teachings for some time. In addition to increased calm, emotional behaviour, one is most likely to notice the effectiveness of Taoist practice in the increased absence of ailments. Less sleep, better digestion, more fulfilling sex and generally better moods significantly increase our quality of life.
A person can only lead a fulfilled life if he or she is in harmony with the basic forces of life. In Taoist understanding, harmony corresponds roughly to all-embracing love. If he violates the law of the exchange of yin and yang by preventing the sexual union of the yin energy with the yang energy, the chi cannot flow properly in the body, the life force will slowly come to a standstill and escape. Life becomes dull and monotonous, interrupted only now and then by brief flares of frozen passion.
The only way to gain real benefit from Taoist practices, however, is to actually apply them.